Some people have more, other people have less – I’m talking about self-confidence. And some people still think that we’re born with more or less self-confidence. But fortunately that’s not true.
Now, before I deepen this topic I want to make clear the difference between self-confidence and self-consciousness. Because those two things aren’t the same.
Self-consciousness treats -as the word says – the consciousness. That means: You are aware of your abilities, thoughts, ect. and you can use them.
Self-confidence is the confidence in yourself. That means you trust in your intuition, your abilities, your belief, etc.
And much more important than the self consciousness is the self-confidence in my opinion. Because it makes no sense to KNOW what you can if you don’t TRUST in it.
The power of self-confidence
The power of self-confidence is still underrated too often.
Earlier in my life i didn’t really have self-confidence. Just the smallest thing brought me to self-doubt and sad hours. I couldn’t move forward anymore. The reason for that was simple: Deficiency of self-confidence.
But the good message: You can build up your self-confidence.
And that’s why I want to give you 5 tips to boost up your self-confidence. Have fun!
We all love compliments, right?
Do you know what’s even better?
GIVING compliments. Yeah, you heard that right. And I mean giving compliments to strangers. It’s not that hard 😉 And there’s only one condition: The compliment has to be sincere!
When I started with this I just went out for a walk and made sincere compliments to strangers that crossed my way. In the beginning this felt a bit strange. Because it’s not „normal“. But the reactions of the people were amazing 🙂 They were so happy because they received a sincere compliment from a stranger – in a world where it’s not even normal to say hello if someone crosses your way.
And believe me: I was even more happy! Because it feels just amazing to make other people smile. 🙂 This pushes your self-confidence enormously!
Talk to strangers and always me honest.
Another reason for more self-confidence is gratitude. Some weeks ago I wrote an article about this topic – Here you can find it. 🙂
To write down what you’re grateful for each day helps to build your self-confidence. Because you put your focus on the good in everything and you SEARCH for positivity in all your situations. That shows you that your life isn’t really as bad as you think.
Write down what you’re thankful for.
#3 Overcome your fears
One of the most important factors on my way to getting more self-confidence was overcoming my fears.
I had so many fears that blocked me. I just couldn’t do what I wanted because my fears were bigger than my intention.
I had many dreams and goals. I stood in my own way. I always had strange fears and that’s why I renounced so much. Just because I didn’t want to embarrass myself in front of others. Or because I was afraid to be represented as an idiot by others. I was always thinking of what others might think when I do this or that. And I think this terrifying feeling is a feeling that many of us know.
Even with this blog here I overcame a fear. I could have started this much earlier. But I wasn’t ready. I was always afraid of other peoples opinions. I thought they might not like my writing or my topics.
Before I could start this I had to strengthen my self-confidence. And as I succeeded I had the power to really start this.
Face your fears and overcome them to live more freely.
As I wrote in the beginning of this article, self-confidence and self-consciousness isn’t the same. But nevertheless self-consciousness is an important part in your life.
- What are your strengths?
- What can you achieve with them?
- What are your personal characteristics?
It’s important to know that. Because only when you know what your characteristics and skills are – you can trust in them.
Be aware about your skills, characteristics and strengths.
#5 Other opinions
As you can read out above at tip #3 you know that the opinions of others are often the reason why we’re blocked from doing what we really want.
We’re afraid of bad criticism, that people turn away from us or that they laugh at us.
But we shouldn’t care that much about the opinions of others. I mean it’s your life – not their life. And there will always be someone that doesn’t like you and your way of living. No matter what you do in life. Just don’t let other opinions block you!
But that doesn’t mean that you can’t ask for another opinion. Sometimes it’s good to ask our loved ones about their opinion to see another perspective. Or ask them about your positive characteristics if you can’t find them on your own.
And this strengthens your self-confidence.
Moreover, if someone tells you a negative opinion about a new project you started, a new outfit or if you just live another life than them, you don’t need to care about that. Let them talk. People will always find some negative points. But that’s just their opinion. Nothing more, nothing less.
It’s not about you – it’s about them. And if you just don’t care – they’ll lose.
Stop listening to other opinions, and listen to your heart instead. Do what YOU think is right!
Little self-confidence is often the reason why people don’t have what they wish for. Don’t be that human too! Start today and work on your self-confidence to feel more free and make your life the best thing you ever saw!
Let me know in the comments what you think of this topic 🙂