We all know them. Fake friends. Those people who will disappoint us in a way we can’t handle and process in a short period of time. But how do I recognize fake friends?
This topic was desired by you when I asked on Instagram what I should write about. So here it is. The article about fake friends.
This year I made a pretty painful experience when it comes to friendships. I think it’s a good moment to write about this topic today.
What happened to me wasn’t really “fake friends”. Other people would probably still call it fake friends, but for me it’s more a “People change and suddenly we’re strangers”-kind of situation. Something like that. When it comes to friendships/relationships there’s never everything said. So many things happen between people and we were all disappointed by someone at some point of our lives. We all have felt the pain of separation. Of one way that became two. And we all know what it feels like when a friendship emphasizes as fake…
Did you ever wish you didn’t experience a certain situation? That you could’ve seen what happens in the future so that you could’ve avoided it before it even happened?
I think we all had this thought at some point.
These days I’m totally sure that everything happens for a reason. No matter how painful it might be. In the end we learn something from every single encounter.
Some lessons need to be hard to teach is us something for life. It’s never without purpose and in the end it all has a positive effect on our lives. It all just needs time.
But… what are fake friends at all? When can we call it fake friends? For me this is kind of a complicated question, because even the best friend will hurt you one day. Even the best friend will fight with you at a time. That’s what relationships grow from.
So where does a fake friendship start being fake?
For me it’s fake friends when there’s no right balance anymore. When the negative aspects are overriding and more serious. No matter with which human being you build a relationship; there will always be pros and contras. But the pros should always be more present. 🙂
Moreover, not every relationship, that isn’t good, is fake. In my option there are people who just don’t match. People who have no common denominator. If those people – for what reasons ever – still try to be together it won’t work. But that has nothing to do with fake friends.
There are different kinds of fake friends. But they all have one thing in common: They all just stand in your way and prevent you from being happy.
There are many kinds of fake friends. In the end we all have been a bad or fake friend at least once in our life. The extend may variate, but we all make mistakes and treat people badly sometimes. And in every case our behavior came from own problems. Sometimes we maybe didn’t even realize we had problems.
That doesn’t excuse this behavior of course. And it’s important to decide how much time you want to spend with people like this and how many chances you give.
To break up with people is always a hard thing to do. Especially because we had fun times with everyone. Even the fake ones.
But still, it’s the most important thing in the world to care for yourself. The only thing you could do instead of breaking up is to help. That might sound crazy. Why should you help a person that has hurt you so many times? Legitimate question. You have to decide if it’s worth it or not. But never forget that every bad behavior comes from within the person and has nothing to do with you.
Maybe you’re the one he/she needs to become a good friend?
In case you decide to try to help, set a time limit. A time limit until when this relationship has to be better.
Years pass so fast and if you’re a human being like me it could happen that in the end you spend too much time with fake friends while trying to help without seeing it doesn’t work out. And this can get seriously dangerous for your soul.
Always be aware of your worth and that you don’t owe anyone anything. Ask yourself if the time you invest in a fake friend is worth it.
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